I am too lazy or enjoy eating too much to diet.
I am still pretty lazy, but I am enjoying what I am eating now using single ingredient foods, so the ‘enjoy eating’ too much to diet thing is definitely a myth.
Exercising is hard when you have a lot of extra weight, even climbing a flight of stairs can be a challenge. I think that getting your diet right is the bigger battle, so ‘lazyness’ or lack of energy can just be in part down to your size, as the weight comes off, you naturally will have more energy as you are not carrying the extra pounds. So I am not panicing about exercise at the moment, I have started doing some short walks, and will build on this over time.
I was conditioned to be fat from an early age
I still believe there are certain psychological aspects of eating that relate to your upbringing, I was ‘conditioned’ not to leave any food on my plate at an early age with phrases like ‘there are starving children in Africa’ and ‘no dessert until you clean your plate’. Although these aren’t un-breakable traits, as they were learned at an early age they are part of my ‘programming’ towards food. I find it very difficult to leave food on my plate, I would rather overeat than leave something. That said, smaller plates or smaller portions are what helps here, you can still have a clean plate and lose weight.
Sweets, cake and chocolate being a reward for good behaviour, this gives you an unconsious belief that these items are ‘good’ through pavlovian conditioning and being given as a reward for good behaviour. If salad or fruit had been the ‘reward’ then maybe my outlook may have been different. Again this is not something that is impossible to undo, but it means you are fighting against your subconscious.
On this one I think there is definitely a lot of truth, is it something that can be overcome? Of course it is, but you are going against ‘reflex’ reactions towards food that are conditioned from an early age and so it is hard to break those mannerisms.